Saturday, December 26, 2009

A Good Question

I love questions that make me think ... yesterday someone asked me to describe "the perfect man". Interesting question, huh? I have interesting friends :)

So I tried to answer the question ... and this is what I came up with ...

"I used to have a perfect answer for this. I could give you a very neat list of all the attributes that would equal perfect. Then I realized that being able to check off all the items didn't make someone perfect. I threw that list away. Soooo ... the perfect man would allow me to just be who I am and accept me and all my pieces. He would laugh with me and make me laugh. He would be willing to both give and receive within the relationship. He would be gentle, but not weak. He would be confident and know who he is and who he is becoming. He would have his own life and not expect me to create that for him. He would be a gentleman and allow me to be a lady. I will never be in a relationship with someone that I could ignore ... or who could ignore me. I want that spark. Wow ... this was a jumble, huh?"

It was a good question.

10 comments:

Crybbe666 said...

Very nice Tess, and I agree with you whole-heartedly. Whether or not that "perfect" man is out there, at least you don't compromise on what you want...

"He would be a gentleman and allow me to be a lady."...so very true!!

(Hope you had a great Xmas and all the best for the New Year!!)

Tess said...

It's all about the intangibles, isn't it? A mixture of things that can't be explained ... but simply add up to a sense of belonging.

Thanks, Paul :)

Bukowski's Basement said...

A perfect combo of traits to be found. Well put. Very well put...

Lissa said...

Great answer:) I am wishing you lotsa love in the upcoming year:)

Linda said...

Nice description -- if you find him, clone him!

Hope 2010 blesses you with that perfect dude -- and a lot of words! Peace, Linda

Michael Solender said...

Whadya doin tonight?

Tess said...

Michael ... what time should I be ready?

遙遙 said...

Never put off till tomorrow what may be done today..........................

Melanie Sherman said...

Tess, your list is awesome. Much better than mine. My lists demands he be breathing, tolerant and have enough money to post his own bail. (Just saying---in case he works at Enron or WorldCom)

Tess said...

Melanie ... I'm thinking your list probably stands more of a chance than mine ... good thing I'm reasonably happy on my own!! :)